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    What to do when it’s no longer in harmony

    by Holly Lanesmith July 21, 2021
    Well, it’s the end of an era.

    I just finished two weeks of vacation time (more like stay-cation time) with Holly and our two boys. We spent the majority of the two weeks at our estate home in Jupiter, Florida.

    But we did get away for a handful of days to our beachfront condo up on Jupiter Island.

    This is the condo I just so happened to put on the market a couple months ago, and subsequently sold just a few weeks back. The closing date is in August, so we thought we would go up there for one last hurrah!
    I’ll be honest, it was an interesting time for me. On the one hand, there was a sense of sadness in letting go of and moving on from my very first “dream home.”

    The condo truly was that for me. If you’ve heard me tell the story of how I came to buy it, you’ll recall how when I first walked through the front door and saw the floor-to-ceiling view of the ocean and caught the pattern of the granite countertop in my peripheral view, I knew I had been there before.

    Now, I had never physically set foot in that condo before that first viewing when I was looking at buying it, but I had been there a thousand times in my mind, as I imagined exactly the home I wanted to live in.

    And that was it!

    That was fourteen years ago. Fourteen years of my life – almost half of my adult life spent living in that beautiful home with the breathtaking view of the ocean that I would wake up to every single morning.

    And then when Holly came into my life and we started dating, I got to share that home with her as well, and it made it even more special.

    Then last fall, Holly’s boys were getting a bit older, and the condo (though a decent size) was starting to feel a bit cramped for 4 people, including two growing and active boys (and considering Holly and I work from home most of the time).

    We had talked on and off about looking for a larger home, away from the ocean. But then every morning, we would wake up and raise the blinds in our bedroom, and all we would see is ocean… and we would just look at each other and shake our heads… we couldn’t give this up.

    But then we decided, let’s just look and see. See what’s out there in terms of homes in this area.

    Well, the first home we looked at, I remember pulling up to the guard house to the community, and just feeling a sense of exhilaration.

    The grounds were beautiful, the streets were quiet, and then we set foot in the house, and we were blown away. Every detail was perfect.

    It was truly next level!

    Within a week, we had put in an offer that was accepted by the sellers. And that was that. We were moving on from the beach home to a new kind of sanctuary for our family.

    And up until a week ago, I hadn’t been back to the condo one time since we moved at the end of October.

    And the funny thing is, I didn’t even think about it. During these last months that went by, Holly and I would look at each other too many times to count and just say, “I love our home; THIS is our home!”

    Like it was almost too good to be true. But it was true. And it is true! And it’s ours. Our first home truly together. Our dream together.
    So all this to say, we did go back to the condo, and from the moment I stepped inside, I knew it was the right decision to sell. I already kind of knew it. That’s why I had already sold it.

    But this was firm confirmation that it was indeed the right next step for us.

    You see, my life, our life together, was no longer in harmony with that place –that condo. Since moving to the “big house” (as the boys call it), we had grown, our energy had expanded, our thinking had increased to greater proportions, to dream bigger dreams.

    ...And when that happens, there are things in your life that will no longer be in harmony with those new dreams, with your new energy signature.

    And as beautiful as the condo is, and as gorgeous as that ocean-front view is, it’s no longer in harmony with me, with Holly, with our family, or with our dreams and plans for our life together.

    It’s not a match.

    So, what do you do when something isn’t a match? …when you have something in your life that is no longer in harmony with you and what you desire?

    There’s only one thing to do, and that is to let it go. Sometimes it will be a thing. A place. A relationship. A habit. A thought or behavior pattern. It could be anything.
    But the moment you start hanging on to things that are no longer in harmony with your energy and the energy of your dream, you’re going to get stuck, and you’ll get stuck fast.

    Letting go can be as simple as thanking God for the good that thing brought to your life (whether it’s in the form of happy memories, or hard lessons learned), taking a deep breath, and acknowledging “I am ready to let go and move on.”

    And then do just that.
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